7 Ways to Improve Your Relationship

Do you think a great relationship develops because it’s an easy, natural thing? How easy is it after you realize baby makes three—and takes a lot of time away from your marriage? If you think things should be easy, especially after having children, you are doomed to failure. Good relationships take work, especially after children come into the mix. So, if you are willing to work at it, here are seven tips for improving your relationship.

Be Responsible

What do you need? What are you feeling? Hone up to it, be honest, and take responsibility for those things. Don’t constantly look to your partner to make you feel secure—really, it’s your job to find your own security. Fall back in love with yourself so you can love somebody else.

Be Compassionate

If you want to be treated by your partner with compassion, you must also treat your partner with compassion—and yourself with compassion. It’s a good general rule to give kindness to another if you also wish to get kindness.

Be Open to Learning

When you run into a conflict, it is best to open up to learning about yourself and your partner so you can get at the deeper issue, not to focus on winning or losing. The worst thing you can do is to try to control the issue, which can often create more conflict.

Be Receptive to Date Nights

Date nights are important to established couples—early on, couples make time for each other, but after marriage, they can get busy, and kids make you busier. The foundation of any good relationship is time together.

Be Thankful

Try to be positive and remember to say thank you when your partner does even the little things for you. Gratitude is important for a person to feel appreciated.

Be Playful

Make time to play together. If all you both do is work, the relationship will get distant. Try to have fun and see the funny side of things, and laugh together. It will make life, and the relationship, more fun.

Be Helpful

Find projects you can do together. If you are able to work together on things, you will spend more time together and better increase your relationship communication.

Originally posted on YouBuzz.com

Author: drklnelsonsblog

As well as being a longtime, award winning professor with four grad degrees, I am an experienced published writer of books, academic journals, newspaper journalism articles and magazine articles. I hold four graduate degrees--MA English, MA History, MS Psychology and a doctorate in Educational Technology. I have been a professor for over 16 years and have taught and developed classes for all four subjects I hold degrees in. I have also taught first grade and kindergarten, and taught upcoming teachers in K-12 as a professor. Teaching writing along with psychology, education, and history as a professor for 16 plus years helped my personal writing and teaching abilities excel. My deep analysis of content taught me to have a unique sense of perfectionism which is now a now standard expectation I require of myself. I am a rare type of professor and researcher not only because of my many years in academia but also because of my 400 plus published blog and academic journal articles, and other published writings. I have respect for the amazing power of words and the importance of communication, which is something I think many overlook.

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