Do you think a great relationship develops because it’s an easy, natural thing? How easy is it after you realize baby makes three—and takes a lot of time away from your marriage? If you think things should be easy, especially after having children, you are doomed to failure. Good relationships take work, especially after children come into the mix. So, if you are willing to work at it, here are seven tips for improving your relationship.
What do you need? What are you feeling? Hone up to it, be honest, and take responsibility for those things. Don’t constantly look to your partner to make you feel secure—really, it’s your job to find your own security. Fall back in love with yourself so you can love somebody else.
If you want to be treated by your partner with compassion, you must also treat your partner with compassion—and yourself with compassion. It’s a good general rule to give kindness to another if you also wish to get kindness.
Be Open to Learning
When you run into a conflict, it is best to open up to learning about yourself and your partner so you can get at the deeper issue, not to focus on winning or losing. The worst thing you can do is to try to control the issue, which can often create more conflict.
Be Receptive to Date Nights
Date nights are important to established couples—early on, couples make time for each other, but after marriage, they can get busy, and kids make you busier. The foundation of any good relationship is time together.
Try to be positive and remember to say thank you when your partner does even the little things for you. Gratitude is important for a person to feel appreciated.
Make time to play together. If all you both do is work, the relationship will get distant. Try to have fun and see the funny side of things, and laugh together. It will make life, and the relationship, more fun.
Find projects you can do together. If you are able to work together on things, you will spend more time together and better increase your relationship communication.